In this week's Love, Actually interview, exploring the reality of women's sex lives, we spoke with Andrea a pseudonym , who got divorced two years ago at age 55 after a year marriage, and is now enjoying multiple orgasms for the first time in her life. I was married for 35 years, I and have been divorced for two years. The marriage started going downhill when my younger child, my son, was born, 25 years ago, but I stayed for his sake. About seven years ago I was using my husband's computer one day and found out that he'd been looking for sex online with other men. I wasn't totally surprised. Aside from that, we hadn't had a very good sex life at any point.
2) Let go of any goals you've set for the night.
There will be a man and a woman and they are having sex. Up against a wall, in a bed, in a car, anywhere. Vertically, horizontally.
1) Make sure she wants to have multiple orgasms to begin with.
But I never understood what the big deal was. I'd come, he'd come, we'd fall asleep. Then one night, after I'd had my typical one-shot, my boyfriend kept thrusting. All of a sudden, I felt like I was going to come again. I just gave into the feeling, and my body exploded. It was as though I was rocking on the ocean and every wave drove these amazing pulses of pleasure through me.
Let's get something straight: Having multiple orgasms isn't some exotic skill; it simply means having more than one peak during a single sex session — which could mean within minutes, hours, or an entire evening, says REDBOOK Love Network expert Lou Paget, author of The Big O. And it's easier for women to have multiple O's than for men because the female body doesn't go through a post-orgasm recovery period, meaning we can stay aroused longer and get heated up again and again. Want to give it a try? Follow these steps — alone or with your guy — and enjoy the sexploration! You have a better chance of repeatedly peaking if you've already been ramped up by outside sexual stimuli — music, candles, massage, movies, whatever connects you with your body. Now that you're feeling sexy, it's time to get things revving hotter. Alone or with a partner, caress your skin with a luxurious material or play with sensitive spots, like your neck or breasts. Once your body is responding to touch, move on to genital stimulation, but avoid penetration just yet.